Referrals as Reputation are the New Currency in Business

Here's a hard truth: every referral is a recommendation, a vote of confidence in your professional value. If you're not getting referred, you need to ask yourself why. It's that simple, and that crucial.

Referrals fall into two buckets:

1. Solicited referrals: These are the ones you ask for. The insurance industry has this down to a science. For example, they might ask, "Who are the three people that you know that need life insurance that I could talk to?" This direct method often makes most people feel uncomfortable. 

2. Unsolicited referrals: The holy grail. The gold standard. These signal that you've built a relationship so strong, delivered value so clear, that others are willing to stake their reputation on you.

When you receive an unsolicited referral, it demonstrates that you've become a "relationship enabler." Your network sees you as an asset they can leverage to strengthen their own connections. This is a powerful position that can significantly accelerate your professional growth and opportunities.

Both types of referrals play a role in business relationships. The key is knowing when and how to use each approach.

The Importance of Referrals In Business

Referrals have always been a crucial part of business, but two key trends are driving renewed interest: the rise of partnerships and ecosystems, and technological advancements.

To truly grasp why referrals matter so much, we need to look at our own behavior. Think about your personal life. When you need a service, what do you do? You ask around. "Does anyone know a good landscaper?" "Who can recommend a reliable bathroom specialist?" It's a natural instinct.

Who do we turn to for these recommendations? People we like, trust, respect, and believe have relevant knowledge. It's not random - we carefully choose our sources of information. And buyers of products and services do exactly the same thing.

CIOs and CISOs don't make decisions in a vacuum. They reach out to their networks, asking questions like, "Who are you using for this?" "Do you know a good agency?" "Can you recommend a video production team?"

This behavior underlies a fundamental truth in business: pushing doesn't work. If you've ever tried to push a rope, you know it's an exercise in futility. The real power lies in creating what we might call "market gravity" or "market pull."

It's this pull, driven by strong relationships and positive referrals, that truly drives business success.

Why Referrals Can Be Challenging

Many professionals find referrals difficult to handle. It's not complicated, but it's a problem that confuses many. Let's examine why.

Most people are hesitant. It's puzzling. If you've performed well, why not request a referral? But many doubt the value they've provided. If you're unsure about your work quality, you'll hesitate to ask for referrals. And rightfully so.

Every referral is a recommendation. If you don't deserve a recommendation, don't ask for a referral. It's straightforward. Focus on your work quality. Provide real value. Only then should you consider asking for referrals.

Another mistake: asking too soon. "Who else can I talk to?" Wait. If I'm not sure about you yet, why would I risk my reputation for you? Earn that trust first.

Inconsistency is also problematic. You might excel on the first project, struggle on the second and third, then recover on the fourth. This unpredictability makes people reluctant to refer you. No one wants to make a recommendation that might backfire.

Common reasons referrals fail:

1. Not asking for referrals (seems obvious, but it happens)

2. Not teaching advocates how to refer you (yes, that's your responsibility)

3. Expecting satisfied clients to refer automatically (they won't)

4. Not focusing on building relationships (it's called 'relationship business' for a reason)

In summary: referrals are valuable, but not automatic. You must earn them, cultivate them, and approach them wisely. It's challenging, but worthwhile.

The Do's of Asking for Referrals

Let's talk about what you should do when asking for referrals.

The first step isn't building a network - it's doing great work. Be exceptional. Be extraordinary. Excel at what you do.

Make it known that referrals are important to you. For example, 92% of my executive coaching clients come from referrals or recommendations by existing or past clients. Why? Because coaching relies heavily on personal chemistry. If someone doesn't have a good experience, they won't refer you.

Stay connected with past clients. Share your work. Use your blog, podcast, articles, and LinkedIn presence. We're all competing for attention, and attention spans are short. So be brief and impactful.

I use the STAR method: Situation, Tactics, Actions, Results. It's a concise way to present case studies or examples. When sharing, use good judgment. Don't name clients directly, especially when discussing challenges. Say something like, "I'm working with a client who's dealing with this issue." Make the client the hero of the story. Highlight their progress.

This approach is much better than saying, "This client was clueless, and I saved the day." That won't help you get future referrals.

Lead with the relationship. Emphasize how clients are better off because of your product or solution. Train your advocates on how to refer you effectively.

Make relationship building a priority. Use LinkedIn (or other platforms) strategically for networking. It's about creating and maintaining connections that can lead to referrals.

Remember, asking for referrals is a skill. It requires tact, timing, and a track record of excellent work. Do these things consistently, and you'll find that referrals become a natural part of your business growth.

The Don'ts of Asking for Referrals

Now that we've covered what you should do to get referrals, let's flip the script. You shouldn’t just know what all of the right moves are; you should also know how to avoid the pitfalls. So, what are the don'ts of asking for referrals?

First, don't assume you've done good work. Instead, check in regularly with your clients. I've started scheduling regular touch base sessions with my clients. During this time, I ask two key questions: "On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate our professional relationship?" and "How would you rate our personal relationship?"

I track these responses over time. If we spoke on August 12th and they said 7, then on August 14th they said 8, I know I'm improving. One point is a point; two points make a line, and three points show a trend. I'm always aiming to improve and strengthen these relationships.

Next, don't assume the quality of your relationship, work, or value. If you're not asking, you don't know. Also, don't assume you're on their mind. There's a good chance they're not thinking about you, and that's not their job. It's your responsibility to keep your name, brand, and value in front of them.

Don't assume people know how to refer you. Give them the information they need. Be specific about what you do and who you help.

Don't neglect your network after transactions. Maintaining relationships is crucial.

Don't collect connections without purpose. Each connection should have a clear reason or potential value.

Don't ignore LinkedIn's power for professional relationships. It's a valuable tool for maintaining and expanding your network.

Lastly, be praiseworthy. Provide your network with reasons to speak highly of you and your work.

Remember, asking for referrals isn't just about the ask - it's about building and maintaining relationships that naturally lead to referrals.

Maximize Your Referral Potential With Avnir

Traditional networking tools fall short when it comes to understanding the true nature of professional relationships. They don't provide crucial information about relationship depth, health, and relevance.

Think about it: How long have two people known each other? Is their relationship healthy and positive? Is the contact still relevant for your needs? These are questions that typical tools can't answer.

For instance, you might get a referral to Steve, but you have no idea if he'd actually take your call or hang up on you. Or you might spend time pursuing a contact who changed jobs months ago but hasn't updated their profile.

This is where Avnir steps in. Our rich relationship view focuses on depth, health, and relevance. We're even developing a feature to share contacts more effectively, adding valuable context that's often lost in typical referrals.

With Avnir, you're not just collecting connections – you're understanding relationships. This insight is crucial for making the most of your network and securing meaningful referrals.

Ready to transform your approach to referrals? Here's what you need to do:

1. Sign up for Avnir Relationship Bank

2. Utilize our contact sharing feature for more effective introductions

3. Engage with your network regularly through our platform

4. Share valuable content to showcase your expertise

Remember, great referrals start with exceptional work. Focus on being great at what you do, and let Avnir help you leverage those achievements into powerful connections.

Join the Avnir Relationship Bank waitlist today. It's time to stop guessing about your professional relationships and start truly understanding them.